Grief isn’t something to fix—it’s something to livE.

Hi — welcome to UNFIXED.

I’m KilbyOG: a bereaved mother, chronic illness champion, and cult survivor. I write and speak candidly about grief, identity, and emotional agency — without jargon, labels, or pretending to have all the answers.

Since losing my son Danny in 2017, I’ve learned something most people never say out loud: the less I tried to fix my grief, the better I felt. My health improved. My relationships deepened. My clarity returned.

Grief isn’t a problem.

It’s a powerful part of being alive — but our fix-it culture doesn’t leave much room for powerful emotions.

And it can make other people uncomfortable when you refuse to shrink your grief.

But if you’re grieving anything — loss, change, identity, transition — you’re in the right place.

Here, you’ll find stories, articles, resources, and events built from lived experience — mine and the women who walk this path alongside me.